Sexually transmitted diseases are frighteningly common—every year, over one million STIs are acquired worldwide! It can happen to anyone at any time, so if you believe that any of these things mean your boyfriend doesn’t have an STI and that he couldn’t possibly pass it on to you, you’re putting yourself at risk of getting one:
1. HE ONLY SLEPT WITH ONE WOMAN BEFORE YOU.
So what? People who get STIs don’t always sleep around with loads of different people. That’s a huge myth! Besides, you’ll never know how many partners his ex slept with. One, you say? Okay, but how many did he sleep with? See how this snowballs?
2. HE LEADS A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.
He loves to gym regularly and he sticks to a healthy diet. If he’s looking after his body, you might assume that means he wouldn’t put himself at risk of getting an STI. But who knows? The two aren’t necessarily linked. People sometimes take health risks in unexpected ways.
3. HE ALWAYS USES CONDOMS.
He’s told you about his sexual history and how he always uses condoms. That’s responsible, but there’s a catch. Condoms don’t protect against all STIs. Some infections can result from oral sex or skin-to-skin contact. Plus, you can never know for sure that he used condoms in the best and most responsible way unless you go back in time. It’s just easier to ask him to get tested than it is to build a time machine.
4. HE HAD AN STI AND HE GOT TREATED FOR IT.
Kudos to him for getting tested and treated, but that doesn’t mean he’s immune to getting it again or getting other STIs. He might even have more than one simultaneously. For instance, when doctors test for chlamydia, they usually test for gonorrhea at the same time because the two tend to appear together.
5. HE’S TRUSTWORTHY.
You really feel like you can trust this guy and he lives up to his word, so when he says he’s clean or he’s been tested, you believe him. But don’t go into things blindly! The guy could be lying. Isn’t it better to doubt him than to put your health at risk? Some STIs are really hard to treat and they can have lifelong consequences. It’s not worth it.
6. HE TALKS ABOUT HOW AFRAID HE IS OF STIS.
He claims that sleeping around is terrible because it can cause all sorts of nasty STIs. When he talks like this, it makes you feel relieved. You’re both on the same page about sexually transmitted diseases and how important it is to avoid them. That’s great and all, but it still doesn’t change the fact that he could have one.