Your partner may be flawed, but are you truly perfect? Read these 15 rules to know if you’re a good partner before you point out your partner’s flaws.
It’s easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong, to get annoyed and frustrated by it, but have you ever stopped to think that maybe you aren’t doing everything right either?
It’s easy to see flaws in others but is it as easy to see flaws in ourselves? How do you know whether or not you are being a good partner?
15 rules you need to follow to be a good partner
If you truly want to be a good boyfriend/girlfriend or a good husband/wife, ask yourself if you follow these 12 rules yourself. Sometimes, in your determination to pick the flaws of your partner, you may be overlooking a few glaring imperfections in yourself!
Rule #1 You have a right to be angry but you don’t have the right to be cruel
If you want to be a good partner, then this is a really important one to remember. Everyone has a right to be angry, sometimes it can’t be helped, however it’s the way you deal with that anger that determines whether or not you are being fair.
It’s okay to tell your partner if they have done something to upset you, it’s not okay to insult them for it, to bring up the past or to throw things in their face. If you do this, then you won’t solve the issue that made you angry in the first place, you will just escalate the conversation into an argument. The likelihood is that your partner won’t have meant to upset you, so deliberately hurting them or insulting them is out of line, no matter how justified you feel at the time.
Rule #2 Sometimes when you’re right, you still need to back down, for the sake of peace
It’s easy to get carried away in an argument, especially if you’re right. What isn’t easy is backing down. Sometimes, it just doesn’t matter who is right and who is wrong, the only thing that matters is ending the argument. Don’t let your pride rule you, you need to know when it’s okay to back down and make peace.