Sure, things look pretty bleak in the dating scene right now, but believe it or not, there ARE some guys out there who aren’t complete creeps and who will treat you with the respect, dignity, and love you deserve. Here are some things to remember when you feel yourself going down a resentment spiral with every new sexual assault allegation that pops up on your Twitter feed.
1. NOT ALL GUYS ARE GUILTY OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT.
So much attention has been placed on the terrible men who’ve sexually assaulted women, but what about all the guys who never have and never will? There are good guys out there, and you probably know a few already. I want you to actively think back to all the times a guy DIDN’T overstep your boundaries and was actually very respectful of you, especially in sexual scenarios. It’ll be a nice stroll down memory lane, you’ll see.
2. YOU CAN’T REALLY HATE OVER HALF THE POPULATION.
You’d drive yourself crazy and miss out on a lot of great guys if you assumed all of them were insensitive jerks. Out of all the guys I’ve dated (and I live in a big city, so I’ve dated a ton), only one veered into borderline sexual assault. It could be that I just know where to find all the good guys or that most guys truly do mean well. I’m pretty sure it’s the latter. If you think about it, you’re probably in a similar boat.