Being selfish, confused, and generally a mess is an important part of being young and figuring your life out—it’s OK! What’s not OK is committing to being in a relationship if you’re not actually ready for one. For the love of God, just don’t do it!
1. DON’T FOOL YOURSELF OR YOUR PROSPECTIVE PARTNERS.
Are you super focused on other aspects of your life? Are you time poor? Need to work on your communication skills? Still getting over your last breakup? If you answered yes to any of those questions, a committed relationship is definitely not your jam right now. While 95% of millennials want a committed relationship in the future, the keyword here is “future.” Enjoy your single life and all the perks that come with it but don’t fool yourself or anyone you date into thinking you’re ready for something serious when you’re not. You don’t want to be playing with people’s hearts or heads
2. IF YOU’RE ONLY INTO HOOKING UP, SAY SO.
Whether you’re just looking for a one-night stand or a steady hookup with a FWB, make it crystal clear from the beginning that you’re in it casually. Don’t talk to someone every day if you’re only looking for sex. Don’t nurture anything deeper than a physical relationship if you know that’s not what you want. Nobody wants the games, the confusion, or the false expectations. Please, just be straight up and avoid instigating the dreaded situationship.