2. DREAM VERSION TO FIND TRUE LOVE
Every one of us at some point in life has imagined a perfect partner but has not yet found them. The reason is because we don’t exactly know what we want I mean we do have a rough idea about how he should look, how rich he should, should have certain kind of job and stiff like this but we never know the exact things that we need and so when we are in a relationship and sometimes when we are in trouble or in a fight you think that you start comparing your current partner with your dream partner and guess what your current partner comes up short.
And then you resent them for it because they couldn’t meet some invisible standard that you have set for them. I mean if you think for one second that you are not going to have trouble with your dream partner than you are naïve because any relationship which doesn’t involves a little bit of struggle is not a proper relationship because then it means that you both don’t really care what happens next instead you are just coexisting without even talking to each other. Well if you want find true love or someone close to it then you must first decide how your dream partner should be and for that here are two questions you need answered.
What You Want
This here is what you expect from a relationship and your dream partner to be. First of all we are not trying to tell you that two people just meet and fall in love and live happily ever after is not real, but it is in fact a fairy tale although in real life there are some steps in the middle and in the beginning which we need to make clear. So, what you want? This question can only be answered by you and so if you are free now than take out a piece of paper and go to place where you won’t be disturbed and start jolting down point wise what you want in your dream partner.
This will make it easy for you to find true love. You already know this things all you need to do it write it down and don’t be surprised if the list goes on for a while and it also include some let’s say intriguing things but note it down no matter. Sometimes the list include stuff like “He should like [a particular pet/movie/sitcom] and stuff like that, which is different but if you want it in your partner so that you could share some intimate moments together then you may note it down. Once the list is prepared then you may just go through it one more time to check if you have forgotten something, it doesn’t matter how long or short your list is or how immature it sounds you just need it for now.
What You Need
Now this part is to determine what is it that you really need and not just want in your partner. So try going through your list and ask yourself this question “Alone or with a man who is not [quality from list]?” And if the answer is alone then you need that particular quality in your list and if the answer is that you would rather be with a partner who doesn’t have this one quality than be alone than strike that thing of your list and then keep going until your list is done. Now comes the second part which is to cut some more things from your list by asking yourself that “All the qualities, check, [particular quality] not check. What to do?” Now if your answer is that you really need this particular quality to even consider getting in a relationship or you can live without and mark your list accordingly.
When you are done striking some points of your list then make a final draft of your list and you have “What you need” list in your hand. Sometimes these list can also include qualities like height or weight or religious beliefs and things which are important for individual person to be comfortable with their partner and there is no such thing as stupid when it comes to choose your life partner because it’s the only thing you allowed to choose because rest of it like family doesn’t depend on you, so choose wisely.