I always thought being in a relationship meant that the loneliness of single life would disappear. What a joke! I learned this the hard way when I dated a guy who swore he loved me but made me feel more alone than I ever had before.
1. IT WAS LIKE HE WAS THERE BUT NOT.
He was a fun, smart, interesting guy, but sometimes we’d be hanging out and it was like there was this screen between me and his brain. I had no idea what was going on inside his head but he was lost in it and didn’t care to share his thoughts with me. I’d be sitting there feeling so disconnected from him and it seriously sucked.
2. HE WASN’T THERE WHEN IT REALLY MATTERED.
He was the first person who’d show up to my house for a party and the last one to leave the dance floor on a Saturday night, but when I was sick or stuck with a flat tire, he was never around. WTF? Clearly he just loved having a good time. Meanwhile, I was left stranded and alone when I really needed him.
3. HE DIDN’T PAY ATTENTION.
Once, I had a huge fight with my best friend and had to re-do my makeup because you could see I’d been crying. My BF came to pick me up at home to go out for dinner. I thought he’d ask me why I looked so sad but he didn’t even notice my red, swollen eyes! I couldn’t believe it. He was too busy talking about his day at work. There were plenty of other times he didn’t pay attention to me or show me any consideration, but that one sticks out in my memory.