4. OUR DATES BECAME GROUP OUTINGS.
The first time he invited me to meet his friends, I was excited to get to know more about him and his life. But then every date of ours became group outings with his friends present and we never went out just the two of us. It started to get to me, and not just because I wanted to have some quality time with him on our own.
5. HE WAS DIFFERENT AROUND OTHER PEOPLE.
Around his friends, he was warm and the life of the party. Everyone raved about what a cool guy he was. It killed me to see how much he connected with his friends. Meanwhile, with me, he was distant and on his own mission. During one of our dates at his house, he spent the day reading instead of engaging with me. WTF?
6. I STARTED TO WONDER IF HE WAS WORTH IT.
After a few weeks of dating, I started to wonder if being with this guy was pointless. I mean, sure, we had some good times—usually when we were surrounded by other people, mind—and the sex was great, but was that enough to keep me around long-term? I doubted it.
7. I MET SOMEONE WHO WAS HIS POLAR OPPOSITE.
I decided to take some time to figure things out before making any rash decisions, but life had other ideas in store. At work, a new guy joined our team and he was such a catch. I found myself leaving work every day with my cheeks hurting from all the laughter we’d shared. I was totally crushing on him even though I didn’t want to admit it because I had a boyfriend.
8. HE SHOWED ME WHAT I WAS MISSING.
It wasn’t just good times my co-worker and I were sharing. He really listened to me; I felt like when we spent time together over lunch, he gave me his undivided attention. It broke my heart because it made me see just how little my boyfriend actually gave a damn about me. He was more interested in giving his attention to his friends. Ugh.