I didn’t realize just how much the relationships I had in the past were keeping me trapped instead of helping me grow—that is until I threw them out and chose myself over them. Here are 14 ways in which they held me back from being happy and chasing my dreams.
1. MY GOALS WEREN’T RESPECTED.
I remember once telling my first boyfriend about my goals and how he mocked me about them. So much for support, jerk! His negative comments made me doubt myself and put my goals on the back burner, which is sad because they were so much more important than he was.
2. HE WAS JEALOUS.
The same guy was never happy for my achievements. He was always finding negative things about them or trying to bring me back down to earth “for my own good.” It was such BS and really just a show of his insecurity, which made me stupidly tone down my success to make the loser feel better.
3. I WAS BROKEN DOWN.
Another guy I dated kept finding flaws in me and over time, this really messed up my confidence. It was hard to love life and be a go-getter when I felt like I wasn’t worthy of happiness. I won’t give a man such power over me again.
4. MY ENERGY EVAPORATED.
I dated a toxic guy who was always sucking my energy with his drama. It left me depleted, unable to dedicate my energy and passions to other areas of my life. The result was that I was stuck in a dark pit of his own making.
5. HE TRIED TO PERSUADE ME.
The same guy was always trying to change my mind about decisions I wanted to make, as though his future was the only one that mattered for us. He wanted to decide where we’d live and what we’d do. I wish I’d taken a stand and stood up for my own ideas, FFS!