I used to be that perpetually single girl who could never seem to find a guy who loved me the same way I loved him (or at all). However, once I started to put the following 10 things into practice, everything turned around.
1. I PUSHED MYSELF TO TRY NEW THINGS.
I’m a creature of habit, so the idea of trying something totally out of my comfort zone is, well, uncomfortable. I like to fantasize about doing new things like rock climbing, singing in a choir, or taking cooking classes but I rarely follow through. I realized that there were a ton of opportunities to meet someone out there that isn’t in my circle of friends or someone I work with, so I’d be wise to just swallow my pride and sign up for these extra-curriculars. That’s exactly what I did and it was a game changer.
2. I MEDITATED EVERY DAY FOR 20 MINUTES.
I remember seeing a TED talk about a girl who meditated every day and how it changed her life. It was a gradual change, don’t get me wrong. In the first week or so, I considered dropping it altogether because it felt kind of pointless. How would thinking about nothing help me in my love life? I found that taking the time to delve deep into my inner workings every day allowed me to stay more or less in that state for the next 24 hours or so, and I swear it made my aura very attractive to people.
3. I LEARNED TO SAY NO.
I’m a classic Yes Girl but didn’t realize how going for literally any guy who threw me a bone was totally ruining my chances of meeting someone great. I raised my standards, started turning out things and people who didn’t meet them and saved myself for only the good guys. I used to feel bad for saying no but now I know it’s worth it in the long run.
4. I MADE MYSELF LOOK AVAILABLE.
Half the battle of attracting someone is being available, but only when I started putting actual effort into appearing available did guys start getting the message. I used to be too shy to talk about my single status, but now I realize that it’s crucial to let people around you know that you’re looking. Just dropping the hint here and there that I was looking for a boyfriend made all the difference.