3. AM I EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE?
You may have met a lot of emotionally unavailable dates, but how willing are you to get deep and open up? Some signs of being unavailable are an inconsistency with what you want, regularly blaming others and denial of your own feelings. When you’re emotionally unavailable, you attract other people who are the same. You can work on this by starting to take a look at your feelings, practicing being honest with yourself and others, and taking ownership of situations that are yours.
4. DO I HAVE STUFF I COULD WORK OUT IN THERAPY?
We’ve touched on this a bit, but do you have a therapist? There’s no shame in the therapy game—many people find it immensely helpful. I imagine you’d benefit from therapy if you’re at a point where you keep finding yourself in relationships with people who hurt you. After all, who couldn’t use an impartial third party to help us reflect on our behavior?
5. WHAT ARE MY PATTERNS?
Are there certain things that you keep seeing yourself do over and over again? Maybe you keep feeling in your gut that something isn’t right but you ignore your intuition and do it anyway. Or, perhaps the guys you find yourself with are the same guy with just a different name and face. Examining your patterns is helpful because it’ll give you some knowledge of your situation and a bit of power to maybe choose something else next time.