6. DO I KNOW WHAT MY BOUNDARIES ARE AND AM I KEEPING THEM?
I’m guessing if your self-esteem and sense of self are mushy that your boundaries are the same. Do you know what you want? Do you stick to that or do you let someone else decide your fate? For example, you have no idea how long you want to wait to get physical so you don’t set any boundaries. It’s good to start by figuring out what you want and don’t want. From there, you can begin to communicate what your needs are with others.
7. DO I KNOW WHAT MY DEALBREAKERS ARE AND AM I STICKING TO THEM?
Similar to boundaries, dealbreakers are certain things that you just can’t settle for. When they pop up, do you respect yourself enough to leave? I’m guessing if you’re finding yourself with guys who aren’t nice to you that the answer is a big, fat no. If his behavior is unacceptable, don’t accept it. End of story.
8. DO I HAVE ANY FRIENDS I COULD TALK TO ABOUT THIS?
Perhaps you have a friend who also used to date guys who were awful to and for her but now she’s grown out of that phase. Pick her brain to find out what she did! Also, surround yourself with more people who have healthy relationships. You can start to watch what they do and absorb lessons from them.