6. I NEEDED TIME TO BECOME MY TRUEST SELF.
I love the idea of becoming progressively more connected in a relationship over the years, but if I’d started growing together with a man when I was young, I wouldn’t have developed on my own. I’m what you’d call a late bloomer, and only now, in my early 30s, do I feel myself beginning to flower. I like knowing exactly who I am, regardless my relationship status.
7. MORE GUYS HAVE THEIR ACTS MORE TOGETHER AS THEY GET OLDER TOO.
The boys needed their soul-searching time as much as I did, right? I didn’t begrudge the mid-20s dudes I knew for being kinda unformed. Me too, pal.We had things to deal with before we could even consider sharing our hearts. But we got older, and we got wiser (or at least developed enough wry humor to see us through), and now here we all are ready to meet one another and form meaningful partnerships.
8. I APPRECIATE THINGS I WAIT FOR.
I didn’t feel like I’d met my people in the halls of the high school and I wasn’t about to settle into a clique unless the commitment felt right. It was a bizarre and sucky experience being so alone so much of the time, but when I grew up and finally DID meet my people, I discovered mutually satisfying, inspiring friendships that were totally worth waiting for. If it took me so long to meet my best buds—and if my gratitude for them is actually magnified by those gnarly high school uncertainties—why should true love be any different?