Getting over an obsession with your ex takes three simple (yet complicated) parts. You have to stop feeding the behaviors and thought patterns that contribute to your nagging obsession, start living in the present and look forward to the future. After all, the best way to be free of your obsession with your ex is to create a life that they’re no longer part of. Here’s how to get there.
1. LOOK AT THE LIES YOU’RE TELLING YOURSELF.
If you’re all caught up in an ex (or multiple exes), you’re definitely telling yourself a few lies that are keeping you stuck. Here are some of those distortions you might need to take a good look at: “They were the one, I’ll never find anyone like them, I really messed up.” Just examine these ideas—you don’t even have to do anything with them yet. Sometimes just being willing to be honest with yourself does wonders in recovering.
2. SMASH THE IDEA THAT YOU’RE EVER GOING TO GET BACK TOGETHER.
That idea is only tying you to your ex when you really should be moving the hell on. So shrug off that delusion anytime it pops into your mind. It’s not happening; you’re split forever. The sooner you shake that lie off, the quicker the obsession will be relieved.