I have a super over-active mind. This serves me well when I’m organizing my life, being creative or coming up with “Game of Thrones” fan theories, but when it comes to my dating life, it’s kind of a massive drainer. Over time I’ve come to realize that dissecting every detail rather than taking things at face value has gotten me nowhere. Ladies, it’s time to be frank and just ask the guy what you want to know.
1. WAITING FOR HIM TO DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP IS BS.
It’s 2017, he’s not automatically in charge. If you’re confused about what you are to him, why should you wait for him to bring up the conversation? You’re investing yourself emotionally and physically in this situation, so you have equal entitlement to open the discussion of where you’re headed.
2. IT’S A WASTE OF TIME.
I cringe at the amount of hours I’ve wasted obsessing over finding answers in my dating life. Honestly, think of all the productive, fun things you could do instead of Instagram stalk the girl whose photo he liked. Not only that, but think of the time you’ll save being upfront in the beginning if the guy was never planning on being serious with you in the first place. Both he and you should respect your time, and being honest is the quickest way to ensure you’re not investing it in the wrong place.