Hearing “I love you” can feel amazing, but it doesn’t actually fix any problems that are going on in a relationship. The issues are still there, just covered up with emotion that can blind you to the truth. There are an endless amount of reasons to tell someone you love them, but to fix a relationship problem definitely isn’t one of them, for these 10 reasons:
1. IT DISTRACTS FROM THE ACTUAL PROBLEM.
If you’re fighting, there’s obviously a real problem that needs to be discussed. Saying “I love you” can be a distraction from the fight, dooming you to repeat yourselves and end up having the same argument again down the road.
2. IT ENCOURAGES YOU TO DROP THE ISSUE.
Being reassured that you’re loved can encourage you to drop the issue, but simply being loved isn’t enough. You need to have your voice heard and valued, as well. You can love each other and still openly discuss where the relationship is falling short.